Ok this is going to be a pep talk, perhaps in the Drill Instructor style. In other words it might be a little harsh, but remember I am preaching to the choir-that is me! My news feeds are filled with moms posting about how much they miss their kids. Holidays are a double edged sword-if they get to home you miss them desperately when they leave. And if you did not have them at home it can push you into the hole of despair.
So my dear sisters here is a word of advice. Set a timer. You can have a pity party-trust me I have been indulging in one as my kids were all together for my mom’s Arlington National Cemetery funeral three weeks ago. Having them all with me was like being wrapped in a warm blanket. Having them leave, including one to finish a deployment is like having cold water thrown on me. It’s jarring. I will never get used to it. But it has to stop at some point-hence the timer.
Why stop? Because our kids need us to be strong. We cannot depend on them for our mental well being. They need to depend on us. The more we mope around the greater chance they will sense things are not right. They do not need to be distracted by us. Since they were little we took care of them. We scared away monsters in the night, put notes in their lunches, and stood guard on the playground. Now that they are further afield they need us to take care of them in a different way. We need to encourage them and make sure they are not worrying about us. It is hard to do that in a fog of misery.
So brace up. Have a safe shoulder to cry on and then get busy. Do something-anything to get you out of your funk. Help others. Better yourself. My daughter in law is going back to college through this fifth deployment. That is just awesome! Take control of something you want to overcome. Use that energy that comes from loving your military loved one in a positive way.
This is how we hold down our home front. This is how we show who we are-American Military Mothers (and fathers and spouses) who have the guts to endure whatever it takes until our loved ones’ duties are done.